Chinese Wedding Actual Day Sequence

[gohvicc 0]

Hi all,

My MIL suggested the following sequence to me (the groom) due to the time constraint on the actual day.

1. Go to my wife's house,

2. me and the wife serve tea to her and the dad-in-law and elders

3. bring the bride home to my place to serve tea to my mom and my elders.

4. then proceed to temple

If I am not mistaken, is the normal sequence 1-3-2-4?

Is the one suggested my MIL commonly done as in 1-2-3-4? I do not want to offend my mom by suggesting it to my mom if not common. Rather offend the MIL. Touchy issue. .

Please advise. Thanks.

Vic

[Angel81 1]

Hi gohvicc,

U r right, the usual sequence is to serve tea to groom's parents first before serving tea to bride's side.

Well, discuss it with ur mom first. If she understands your time constraint and doesn't mind, then it's fine. If not, it's better to stick to the tradition.

All the best and congrates on ur wedding!

[xinyi_reiko 0]

Hi all,

My MIL suggested the following sequence to me (the groom) due to the time constraint on the actual day.

1. Go to my wife's house,

2. me and the wife serve tea to her and the dad-in-law and elders

3. bring the bride home to my place to serve tea to my mom and my elders.

4. then proceed to temple

If I am not mistaken, is the normal sequence 1-3-2-4?

Is the one suggested my MIL commonly done as in 1-2-3-4? I do not want to offend my mom by suggesting it to my mom if not common. Rather offend the MIL. Touchy issue. .

Please advise. Thanks.

Vic

hihi, what your MIL suggested is common also.. I do see some wedding couples do it that way. To save a trip and save time.

As long as everyone is comfortable with the arrangement. I believe any sequences will be fine. Wedding should be a happy occasion.

[TYM 0]

Will be having wedding lunch and due to time constraint and do not want to start too early, my sequence even simpler:

1. Go to wife's house

2. Serve tea to in-laws

3. Go for photoshoot (with bros and sis gang)

4. Go to hotel

5. Serve tea to my mother and my side relatives

6. Reception follow by lunch.

Initially wanted it simpler. Check in hotel one day earlier and serve tea there for both sides parents and relatives. But bcos MIL want me to carry the golden pig to her place and wife's sister want to "tekan" me, so got to do the gate crash thing.

Feel that as long as the sequence is communicated to both sides and all are ok, then should be fine. As what xinyi_reiko said, marriage is a happy occasion, we want to be happy and enjoy the day, so we are not too bothered with the sequence.

[Angel81 1]

Hehe, good to hear that ur sequence has been settled, and that everyone is happy with the arrangement.

Have a blissful marriage!

[quoo 0]

Hi all,

My MIL suggested the following sequence to me (the groom) due to the time constraint on the actual day.

1. Go to my wife's house,

2. me and the wife serve tea to her and the dad-in-law and elders

3. bring the bride home to my place to serve tea to my mom and my elders.

4. then proceed to temple

If I am not mistaken, is the normal sequence 1-3-2-4?

Is the one suggested my MIL commonly done as in 1-2-3-4? I do not want to offend my mom by suggesting it to my mom if not common. Rather offend the MIL. Touchy issue. .

Please advise. Thanks.

Vic

Yes , sequence shd be 1-3-2-4, cos shd be serve tea to groom side first..if u serve tea to bride's side , it is like groom is marrying into bride's family..hehee

[Break Free fm Lousy ID 0]

Hi Hi,

I went to my relative's wedding recently,

the sequence is 1234.

they also had time constraint.

[missysg 0]

hi all... i am a 2009 bride and had some doubts on the AD.

Hope u guys/gals can enlighten me.

AD Programme

morning groom to fetch bride

then serve tea to bride parents as to thanks them for bringing up the bride

then proceed to groom place and pray to "tian gong" , accesstors

then serve tea

then back to new house

then to bride house

then hotel

is this planning ok??

another big problem which i dun seems ppl asking is the grown. i love to wear the kua. intend to wear kua from my mom place all the way to hotel but heard that...bride after serve tea at groom place should change to another grown before going back to bride house. if not the bride will be seens as rejected by the groom.

if really thats the case...then i wear white gorwn to groom place pray to tian gong and accesstor then change into kua and serve tea to mil then wear the kua to my mom place to serve tea? can??

[Yang Guo 7]

missysg,

i just had my AD on sep08.

Many many elderly advice me this sequence.

1) morning groom to fetch bride

2) then proceed to groom place, serve tea

3) to new hse to an chuang. A small kid have to jump and roll on ur bed. Groom to remove hair pin on bride. Bride change to kua

4) (Kua on) To bride's hse to serve tea. Lunch buffet at bride's hse

5) to hotel

pray to tian gong i am not sure where. For me, we pray at (1)

Edited November 28, 2008 by Yang Guo

[missysg 0]

missysg,

i just had my AD on sep08.

Many many elderly advice me this sequence.

1) morning groom to fetch bride

2) then proceed to groom place, serve tea

3) to new hse to an chuang. A small kid have to jump and roll on ur bed. Groom to remove hair pin on bride. Bride change to kua

4) (Kua on) To bride's hse to serve tea. Lunch buffet at bride's hse

5) to hotel

pray to tian gong i am not sure where. For me, we pray at (1)

thanks...means at groom place, i am not able to wear kua to serve tea lor.

i really love wearing kua to serve tea at both side sob

[Yang Guo 7]

thanks...means at groom place, i am not able to wear kua to serve tea lor.

i really love wearing kua to serve tea at both side sob

ya lor, time constrain, and you *need your hubby to remove your hairpin for you at your new hse (this is impt). So...the best way is that u can only wear kua at your hse, cant wear to both side

Wear ur white gown to groom place also v nice ah. First half of the morning white gown, 2nd half of the morning wear kua.

Edited December 12, 2008 by Yang Guo