You can't equate children with each other. Still, you have to create a common space for the development of each child so that no one thinks one is better and the other is worse or that parents love them differently. We bought glittering crown dummy clips for our triplets so they can feel where their pacifier is. We bought identical cribs, and each made them personalized with toys and blankets that we liked to choose by color. And it seems like everything is white and the same as you say. Still, we cite those moments when a child expresses himself as a person and individuality.