Hey, Really sorry to hear about your bad experience... I, myself, have been in your shoes once. It will be tough to reconcile but it is definitely worth a try. And if you just give up on it, you may look back and wonder why u didnt try some day... Anyway, when 1 party strays in a relationship, it signifies that there is something which cannot be satisfied in a relationship and hence that straying partner has gone to look elsewhere. It can be anything from communication, emotional fulfillment to sexual satisfaction... I once read that we as humans are wired for infidelity... This means that it is really tempting to stray. You have to talk to your partner to find out what is lacking. Of cos, it takes 2 hands to clap... if your partner is not willing to find the love that was there once, then it becomes difficult... I recommend that you engage a counsellor to help. Under such circumstances, it is hard for u to talk to him in a calmly manner... Scolding, blaming, shouting at each other will only increase the distance between the 2 of u... When a relationship breaks up, both partners have to take responsibility. What I want to let u know is that... there are couples who become more loving after an affair has taken place... because thru the journey of working it out and rediscovery, they resolve the hidden issues and hence build stronger bond... So good luck, my friend. I wish you all the best. Whatever the outcome may be, pls be strong. You will be fine... No matter how much pain it may be, it will not last forever. http://www.carecorner.org.sg/ is a website where u can find gov funded counsellor