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Hi Binz, What a twist haha, I'm glad you got Jalan Membina instead of Jurong because transport is more convenient in town area. Thanks for your advice, I didn't realise some flats in current balloting are near Boon Lay mrt Will the units near Boon Lay mrt (8min walk) or units directly opposite new Pioneer mrt (3min) fetch a high ervaluation price? Sorry I can't figure it out. Pioneer mrt area is a new area under development. I'm interested to apply for balloting but Bf told me that he had no mood to talk about the house these few weeks. He seemed too sad about the loss over house. Jurong balloting closing date is 13 Aug.

Great, I'm happy for you! There's a few 5-room blks near the new Pioneer MRT. Yes Jurong transport isn't convenient. See how lor... My ROM and custom wedding is Sep 2008. Bf is 33 years old this year. If I tell him that I'll only stay with him 5 years later (38 years old), will he faint? My own mum is already worried that he has problem having a baby at his current age haha! Ah ya, even 80 year old man on newspaper can have baby leh. It looks like I'm moving to more and more WULU place. Toa Payoh -> Bishan -> Sengkang -> Jurong

Hi Linggie, If you pay downpayment now, you can also escape monthly cash top-up. HDB allows us to pay lumpsome amount of CPF to them at anytime to reduce our remaining loan. Therefore you and hubby can always pay lumpsome amount of CPF to HDB to reduce your loan, in turn reducing your monthly instalments Hehe I checked this out with my married colleagues. Many of them did this. So now the situation has changed, Now is me go to your new house to disturb you instead If there's any gathering, I'll definitely join you all! I'm going to get new house from HDB. There's an on-going Jurong balloting now till 13 August. I brought it up to Bf but he didn't seem to have mood. I'll place this matter aside first, he's probably brooding over the jalan membina house. It's first time I see the no. of applications less than the no. of supplies for 5 room flats, haha I guess many people dun want Jurong.

Hi Nemofc, I hope your hubby won't change his mind. I hope you get your new house keys soon and get out ASAP! Hi Cindy-Monkeybone, OMG, how did you manage to survive for the past 6 years? I hope you get your new house keys soon and get out ASAP! Hi Yang Guo, Your wife is lucky to marry you. You are understanding. Hi Linggie, HDB has not sent me the letter to sign agreement. Lucky leh! Else our CPFs will be wiped out.

Hi Nemofc and Xlan, Yes, my Bf is willing not to stay with his parents. I told him that I didn't mind staying in Jurong near his parents' house. It's hard because my BF applied the house under Married Child Priority (MCP) Scheme. In feb when we applied for balloting, we didn't know that my sis-in-law will divorce and needs to stay with her parents. When we did booking, the officers said that we would lose this house if the parents didn't sell their house. This sis-in-law always quarrels with the other sis-in-law. Even if she stays at her house, it's likely that she will come to my house to seek 'refuge' in times of fight. It's not nice to reject her. I have serious insomnia problem and sleeps at 3am-5am daily. Most likely I will occupy a separate bedroom in additional to the shared bedroom with Bf. I don't want to disrupt his sleep, as he needs to wake up early for work too. There's really not enough rooms for in-laws and sis-in-law. My customer service officer didn't answer the phone when I called. Therefore I dropped her an email. I'll just try my luck.

Thanks to those who have given me advice about my situation! Yes I agree that in 5 years time, the prices of flats and condos may not be the same as now. Newspapers also tend to broadcast the highest priced flat in the area. Other flats in same area may not fetch the same price afterall. Yes I agree that in-law/sis-in-law problems can cause the marriage to be sour. I have a friend who divorced her hubby due to MIL problem. Her MIL behaves somehow like my sis-in-law. During her pregnancy, she was even rushed to the hospital 2 times because blood suddenly leaked out. Doctor said that it was due to stress. Till now, her MIL doesn't feel guilty for spoiling their marriage sigh. I'm very sick these few days, so I sounded sad on the phone. Surprisingly my Bf gave in to me yesterday and said that he was willing to give up the house for my happiness. I can tell that he's has a lot of Tong Qing Xin hehe. I told him that we could stay near his parents (Jurong) and visit them often. Congrats to those getting keys! After you all have renovated your houses, must post the pics here to share your joy with me hor.

Thanks for the replies. My plan is die die won't sign the lease of agreement haha

Hi, My Bf wants to earn $$$ from the house in Jalan Membina, and forces me to stay with his family now. He told me that he wanted to sell it off and move to a condo 5 yrs later. I very disappointed that he chooses $$$ over me.

BF always give in to me almost all the times. But this time round, he wanted to stick to the original plan and wanted me to stay with his parents and sis! He assured me that his top priority is me and he will always protect me. When I rejected his proposal citing some harmony reasons, he commented that I was unreasonable. Haha after seeing his reaction, I'm even more afraid to stay with his family. I can see that he's siding with his family now. Sigh now we are in a stalemate. !! I'm thinking of leaving him alone for a few days for us to cool down. I have to settle my BF side first before we call HDB up to cancel our application !!

The other time when my BF asked his parents to move in and sell the house, his sis confronted me once I stepped into his house. She should talk to her brother, not me. She got very emotional and couldn't listen to what I said "Leave the decision to your parents...". When my BF pulled me into the bedroom, she rushed into the room and continued her confrontation. Scary man! Agree, issue will return. Agree, too much risks involved. Relationship is more important to me. I had made a decision and sms BF that I would want to stay alone with him and give up the house last night. Reasons: 1. I think it's not nice to 'rob' her sis of a proper home (she move to her sis's house) 2. I can see that my BF does not like to be middleman to make peace for my conflicts with his family members. He kept saying that I was thinking too much and should pity her sis and be more understanding towards her. I have a friend who fell out with her hubby for 5 years because of MIL problems. Thanks everyone for the advice. I'll be a busybody and keep popping by this thread. We'll terminate our application with HDB and apply for WIS ballotings.

The parents MUST sell the house within 6months of us getting keys because BF applied for balloting with their names as Occupiers. He filled up form wrongly without reading the conditions. We have to let the parents shift in with us or they get a new house 2KM from our new house, otherwise HDB will void my application!

Thanks binzz. Your above statement is so true! The house won't be a HOME to me anymore. There's no point talking to my BF further. He keeps saying that I'm thinking too much... Yap, her sis is behaving as a Queen now because everyone gives in to me. It's bad for her. She even scolded my MIL often that she caused her in such situation (Divorce)! I feel sorry for my MIL because my sis-in-law picked the hubby herself.

Thanks gals for the advices and encouragements. It's delightful chatting with you all on this forum though I have no chance to be your neighbour. Somehow I felt sad when I saw the photos of the blocks, mailboxes, kitchens etc on this forum. However, my thinking is ... House can buy new one (maybe not as gd as Jalan Membina), but relationship once broken is hard to mend! Guess I won't be able to get back my $2000. It's fair enough as it's stated in the contract. The $$$ is to buy bf for filling up form wrongly haha. I had a talk with my bf just now. His reactions make me more determined to give up the house even if her sis is not moving in. He kept telling me that her sis was so poor thing and going to divorce, so I SHOULD GIVE IN TO HER ALL THE TIME etc. Now I dun even feel like staying with his parents too. I want peace because I come from a broken family. If you are me, what decision will you make?

Thanks Linggie, Once we went out makan, she would sit down and asked parents to order food and drinks for her like princess. She ate Cheong Fun (50 cents), she also didn't want to pay herself! I also hope nothing happens to your BF! Dun worry, SAF is safe nowadays, there are many safety procedures in place.

Hi all, I may have to give up on the house. Does that mean I will lose the full $2000 fee? If I find another owner to take over, can I get my $2000 back? I agree to let in-laws move over with us because I feel it's a son's duty to take care of parents. Now the sis wants to move over with us too! She lives off in-laws and doesn't give a single cent to in-laws even after she works for years. If she moves over, it means my BF has to pay for her everything too! She wants to divorce her hubby 2 months after marriage so she is staying with her parents now. She owns her own house. Though her other married sis (without kids) asked her to move in with her, she rejected. Of course la, she wants to stay with her parents because they pay for everything. She's mentally not stable and will faint almost every month whenever she blows her top. I already got a BIG scolding from her when my BF wants his parents sell house and move in with us. We asked his parents to keep the $$$ as their retirement funds. I suspect something fishy when her sis suddenly treated me very well at the other visit. My life will be nightmare when I stay with her. She is so hard to get along with