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happyhouse88, thats a really unfair and insensitive statement. are you a guy? no doubt that im the one who wanna walk out of this marriage, perhaps you should ask yourself why. being tormented 12 years is no joke. so who should be compensated instead? a woman do not walk out of her marriage for nothing, im not a gold digger like some people. but yes i totally agree about what you said at the last part - u r not the judge, so dont judge

jelyn, i replied to yr PM. i'm so busy with my life now i hardly have time to be sad and everything. all those tears and sadness have passed, now its not the time to regret or complain or be sad. i only wanna know what my options are, i look forward to having a nice conversation with you in the PM, thanks in advance for yr kind advices

awjelyn, haha yes of coz i know how to open my PM just havent had much time coz i had a few classes today. will read and get back to you, thanks babe!

@therat - i used ATM card, i dont hv bank book. @plastic3 - thanks, its very comforting to know that. obviously in terms of financially he has contributed more but i think i did my fair share in maintaining the house. i contributed financially also, just not as much as him. @simranjits - nah, i think he has a personality disorder. all along hes got a fiery temper but these few years he became worse. maybe he thought he can bully me and i will never leave him. hes taken me for granted and doesnt respect me anymore. he knows he has an anger problem but refuses to seek help. @chronograph - i dont need 50% though if the judge wanna give it to me i definitely will not refuse. i think if wanna talk abt compensation this is more to compensate on my mental anguish, endless tears and sleepless nights. no i dont hv kids. getting married to him had been a mistake, luckily i did not make a 2nd mistake by having kids with him.

angelbutterfly, thanks so much for yr valuable insight, i really felt better after reading what you wrote! i'm not asking for big bucks, just what i deserve. which is why i was shocked that HDB said im not entitled to a single cent which is ridiculous. not even 10% or 20% but zero. its not his fault that i was an occupier then coz i was below 21 so i couldnt be the co-owner. HDB didnt tell me that if i didnt put my name after i turn 21 i will not get a single cent. i thought as a wife no matter what i am entitled to something so whether co-owner or occupier it doesnt matter. who knew? now im 33. reason for divorce, very simple. hes mentally and verbally abusing me. he shouts and screams at me whenever he wants and its causing me mental anguish. being married for 12 years i tried putting up with him but i just realize this is not working out. getting older means im less tolerant coz i ask myself, is this the life i wanna live? i guess i hv no choice but to take it to the court. am finding a lawyer or calling AWARE 1st thing on monday morning.

thanks guys, not sure how im gonna prove it since like i said im self employed (im a piano tutor) so whenever i get fees from my students i'll bank them in via the cash deposit machine to our joint acct. looks like the only way would be to apply for co-ownership before i divorce but what if he refuses?

hi all, i have a burning question and hope that someone can enlighten me here. currently im an occupier of a HDB flat and my husband is the sole owner, reason being when we applied for the flat i was below 21. now we intend to divorce and i checked with HDB they told me if we were to sell the flat now i will not be getting a single cent as my husband is the sole owner. i just think this is ridiculous coz where on earth would the wife not get a single cent? as we are both self employed our monthly mortgage is paid fully in cash and we contribute half half each month. so HDB will not take into consideration this and return all the money to my husband? i was told if i wanna join as co-owner i will have to pay $1K conveyancing fees or something. i just thought since we're getting a divorce i don't wanna go through the hassle of applying for co-ownership. i just think this is such a weird rule, i was an occupier not by choice. when i reached 21 i feel that HDB should automatically add me as co-owner without having me apply anything but unfortunately this is not the case. should i get a lawyer to fight it out for me or? thanks in advance for yr valuable advice!