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This is what I've been trying to say all this while...getting a bit exasperated trying to explain

Oh my god, can we stop the lecturing?? I have said that we are all here to SHARE viewpoints and NOT to judge what is right and what is wrong. Right and wrong are very subjective views. Like I said, what is right to you does not mean it is right to another. Don't force your thinking unto others. 'nuff said.

LV boutiques difficult mah....security tight...your house not so mah...unless you want to consider installing burglar alarm...hehe..

Y not???? They can sell to second hand shops and make a quick buck...some more you got so many....the burglar sure very happy

First to know : You can salvage your r/s asap and talk things out Last to know : Too late. Gone case. Byebye. U seriously think we are so shallow as to consider about "face" if things go wrong?!? Who cares about face when your r/s is giong downhill??

Haha...agree that china ppl have weird taste... Hey maybe he's a billionaire leh....dun play play....the most lok kok ppl are usually the wealthiest... Haha....aiyah anyway hor, bpp is just my neighbourhood area, no need to wear so nice one mah

I agree with Linda that this is blowing out of proportion. There are many different kinds of ppl in this world and with that, different methods of doing things. I do not condemn those who have 100% trust in their partners so why does it seem that those who believe in the 80-20% trust are being slammed?? We all have different ways of managing our r/s. It is not fair to start lecturing to us about how we should go about trusting our partner because what is effective to one does not mean it is effective to another. We are all here to just share our viewpoints so what's up with the blaming?? Don't get it.

What u said makes perfect sense but as I said many times, we all have different perspectives of what the 80-20% entails. I also said we don't go snooping around for clues on "suspected" infidelity. I have also emphasised that we are only being more "alert". Seriously, I don't think there's anything wrong with being more alert. Of course, that doesn't mean we jump to conclusions the moment we sensed something amiss. The key is communication and that is why I have also made my point of talking things out. Do not make conclusions that just because of the 80-20% trust, we are going to go around suspecting our partner. I think if I were to do that, I would be very bz. Some of us just prefer to reserve that extra level of alertness, you know, for just-in-case situations

Muahahahaha..... "How to wipe your mouth clean clean after eating!!"

Haha..Linda, I agree with you. I'm in the same industry with you too but I'm not in the front-line. So that means, the richer you are, the more lok kok you get....haha...i think next time me and my fiance should just wear our pajamas out lah

I think we have all gotten a bit too serious about the 80-20% trust thing...I dun think there's a problem in the r/s just because you don't trust your other half 100%. Like what karen and korea said, if there's something fishy going on, you won't want to be the last to know...of course, we don't go around sniffing and digging for clues. The 80-20% trust thing is only to make us more alert with our partner's happenings rather than go around suspecting our other half. When you are concerned about your partner's behaviour, does that constitute an unhealthy r/s? I don't believe the ladies here, incl me, are out to make their other halves' lives difficult. We all love our partners, just that if things suddenly go wrong, you will be the first to detect and be able to talk things out and rectify any problems asap. So isn't that healthier?? We don't carry the 80-20% trust thing on our forehead and we don't constantly suspect his behaviour. It's only when your partner's habits suddenly change, you know immediately. There are many women out there who are able to trust their other halves 100% but there are also those who aren't. So do you go around saying that there's a problem in their r/s just cos of this?!? We have our own reasons for maintaining that 20% and that does not mean that we do not love our partner or we are constantly suspicious of his behaviour. Ultimately, I believe the ladies who supported the 80-20% trust is to make ourselves more alert of our partner's behaviour so that if there is any cause for concern, we can step in to rectify immediately. To me, that is not unhealthy. Unhealthy is when you don't ask where, what, when, why, how. If things go wrong at some point, any detection or remedy might be too late. Furthermore, what does 100% trust means? Means you don't ask your partner at all where he's going and what he's doing? U don't ask about his daily life at all? Means that you trust him wholeheartedly at 100% that you can be sure where he is at any point of time? This is just an example. If you do start to ask, does that already consitute a less-than-100% trust??!? As I said, we all have different perspectives of what that 80-20% trust means and I think it's rather unfair to conclude that there is a problem in our r/s or it's an unhealthy r/s just because of that.

Hehe my whole MBR is in lavender mist....

I have the same colour for my MBR too!!!

Now still got walk in selection meh?? Tot is all ballot liao??

Wah haha ah keong...you are very creative..i haven't thought of it.....but that's a good idea!!

Super agree!!!!!

Haha...i think we can all shout across to each other lah...dun even need telephone....save money....

U can try Amara, M hotel, Grand Plaza parkroyal, Parkroyal on beach road...800-900 should still be able to get you a nice hotel...

orrr....haha...ya lah the biggest EA i heard is also 154sqm nia leh....and it's very very old flat some more....so far haven't heard of new EAs with more than 135sqm one.... But 133sqm is also very big lor....how big is your unit? Mine is only 125...

I took my keys last Dec.....then this year Mar reno then start.....then move in.....erm....still pending lah...sob sob.... Hahaha...police come then we invite them for bbq together lah...ask them bring some chicken wings...cannot come empty handed one hor... where is 252?? The brown blocks too?? Wah 233sqm?!?! So big meh?? u mean 133 or 233?!? First time see such a big flat leh...even old flats also not that big leh...

Ya lor....sianz right? Cos our vitamin M no more...got to balek save up to buy the appliances and furniture lah......so need to wait longer b4 our house swee swee lor...anyway our customary is next year so we are not in a hurry to move in so soon too..... Haha ya lor...next time wan organise bbq can shout across wor..... how abt 8+ leh? I imagine must be really hot to walk all the way to the LRT leh, esp to Segar LRT....which LRT you usually take? Fajar nearer? So when organise bbq??

Hey bro, you re-surfaced! Wow u moved in liao so fast! I think hor, we can only move in in Sep.... Actually many of them are selling their units at our area...cos this year gam gam 5 years...can sell liao.... Can't find parking lot is a good sign....means that our area getting more and more populated!

I think everyone has a different perspective and interpretation of what the 80-20% trust means...not being able to trust our other half 100% doesn't mean we carry an emotional baggage, for me, I've tried to whole-heartedly trust my fiance, but deep down inside, i couldn't be sure that he wouldn't betray me one day. That said, I love my fiance and I agree with you that we need to work at our marriage to make things work. After all, it takes two hands to clap.

I think guys can never understand how women feel...

Yup, we declared too. Easier to plan for expenses.