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Totally ignore him for a few days and see if he will gan jiong....marriage counselling is good

Hm....seems like your hubby's mind hasn't sunk into the reality of marriage yet...educate him, talk to him, make him understand that while he still can have fun with his friends like he used to, he has an added responsibility now. You're not asking him to cut off all contacts with his friends but at least he must have the sense to call you and inform u that he wil be home late. The more you say, the more I find ironic that he has the cheek to tell you the world doesn't just revolve around you. Tell that back to his face and also ask him to grow up and be more mature. I somehow agree that u have to teach him a lesson so that he will wake up his idea.

You are very brave to be open about your past. I sincerely salute you. I guess your mum still hold the opinion that you are still as bad as you were in the past. Why don't you make known your efforts to make amends to her and that you were no longer the person you used to be and that you had turned over a new leaf? I believe she treated you this way because she's still haunted by your past. Have you tried sitting down with her and make her understand?

Agree!!

I don't think clockwork shd even let her mum get her way. It's so obvious that her mum is very unreasonable.

Yupz..couldn't agree more...

Ya agree...must cool down first, the brain isn't designed to think straight when too angry.....

But sometimes quarrels help you to understand each other better...it's not totally detrimental to the marriage...if u hold everything inside, one day it explodes, it's gonna bring even more dire consequences...the more you keep it inside, the more miserable you will feel...how to truly enjoy marriage life? I believe everything needs to be transparent and if anything, put on the table and discuss...running away to avoid the problem is not the solution in the long run....

Cornetto, if you dun feel good inside, i think you shd talk to your hubby, you nvr say anything, he would assume it's ok with you, that's why he doesn't even bother to inform you he's coming home late...dun let him be...if you dun feel good, u need to tell him...dun suffer in silence...his world now has you in it too...he cannot live like he's single now....he must accept this fact...must ask him to stop living in his own world...it's ironic that he said to you that the world doesn't revolve around you....he shd be the one telling himself that instead....

You echo my sentiments...heh heh.... No matter how much a mum hates her daughter/son, she shouldn't ask her grandson to acknowledge some else as his mum/dad...that is total disrespect and disregard for her own daughter/son. What kind of mother does that anyway? Like that fit to call herself a mum?? She doesn't realise she hasn't been a good mother too...Disgusted...

Agree! What kind of a mother ask her grandson to acknowledge someone else as his mum?? This is way too ridiculous... Your sis can only blame herself for not being "competent" enough to bear a child...with such attitude, i think she deserved it...

Ya I know what kinda tap you are referring to...those kind where you can detach the shower head....not cheap leh....i think one will cost abt 200+....looks cool but i think u hardly will detach it anyway...i think it's good for washing children's hands cos they can't reach.... Didn't notice the cordoned area leh...i only go up my house once per week to clean my house...haha...sianz...duno when then can move in....

Aww....so sweet leh....sometimes we don't need to celebrate elaborately...just a simple nice and quiet evening with each other will be very romantic....i think what you have done is very sweet....

Yes, should inform your other half so as not to let them worry. This is responsibility.

Although I hate to admit it, I fully agree in red....duno which genius came up with this phrase....so apt...

I agree with therat. Reading your story makes me Since your mum treats you this way, u dun have to be nice to her. Asking your son to acknowledge your sis as his mum is far too much

I think he asked that question cos he's afraid that you were planning to divorce him. Actually u shd just say "yes, i am contemplating" then see his reaction how...haha...i think he will be quite stunned....not encouraging you to do that of course U already said it...he's the one you love most in your life...i believe this period is just a stressful period for you that's why you feel so depressed...at this point in time, u shdn't even consider divorce as any form of resort, that's just the cowardly way out now to avoid dealing with the issue. There's no guarantee that in a new r/s, this wouldn't happen...the effective thing is to dui4 zheng4 xia4 yao4...dun let the problem grow into something uncontrollable...right now, it's still something that you can salvage and still within your control... Haiz...ever since I became his Mrs, I've become very naggy too....i even complained to him that I feel very auntie now...I always tell him I'm not his mother, I cannot nag him like his mum does...but i still nag lah...haha....i can't control leh....hahaha...he's crying for Anyway, we all need constant reminders....so that cannot be considered as nagging...you are excused

I think so lor....but I definitely won't wait till then lah...i'm too gan jiong already...my hubby always calls me gan jiong spider...

My hubby always tells me that too...haha...he always ask me what I want from him....I duno how to answer...I also duno what I want sometimes too...I was in the same situation as you, the only difference is that I am very naggy...haha... I coordinated the reno process and even our ROM and wedding banquet I also hv to worry...sometimes I am really too tired and stressed....we've been through really tough times too....in the intial stage, we were on the verge of calling the wedding off....the reno was done...banquet was booked and ROM venue was booked....that period, I basically cried myself to sleep every night cos too stressed up with no help from him at all...he seemed so uninterested that I wondered why he asked me to marry him in the 1st place....and I didn't think he was ready for marriage...I even asked him if the reason he asked me to marry him is becos he's of the age to get married and I just happen to be there at the right time...he said no... I was like We met up to have a heart to heart talk...i told him abt the issues that had been bothering me and i hope he can take initiative sometimes....I told him that when i'm tired and stressed and need someone beside me, he was never there, he was my closest confidante, if he's not there, who can i turn to?? He promised me that he will change....things did turn out better and I'm glad we did not call off the wedding then. Now, occasionally, he will forget so I remind him of what he said. He's constantly changing and I am too.... I think all married couples will go through this stage....hang on, talk to your hubby and solve the issue. Dun let the issue linger for too long. You nvr know what repercussions it might bring...I prefer to solve the issue now so that at least if things get worse next time, u know you have both given each other chances, just too bad things didn't work out. I believe all problems have solutions, dun just give up on your marriage...Jia you

My BS told me 3 weeks leh....i think i too kan chiong liao...i just called them up and they replied photos still not ready....haha... I just hope the photos will turn out nice nia...they actually advised us to collect the album one month before our wedding leh so that up till the day of your wedding, the album still new new....but i dun wana wait so long to collect leh..in case not nice i want to request to redo teh album.....wait no time to salvage liao wor...

I think I'm quite confirmed buying PS3 for my hubby for his bday le...Sony shop at Marina Square is selling at 900+....u get console plus 2 games....is it worth it?? Can anyone also recommend any good games?? The only one I heard is resistance:fall of man

I just had my PS 2 weeks ago...very tiring but quite fun lor.....my AD next year Feb though....hehe....my friend also ask me why i take photos so early...i like to do things earlier leh...so that after that, don't have to worry abt it anymore...can move on to other things....can concentrate on doing up my house....

oh wow really very worth it leh! They did a wonderful job too!!

Ya lor ya lor....they sure say oh choose this must choose the rest cos they all form a story one....i already psychoing myself to resist the temptation to top up any....i already asked my hubby to give me a tight slap if i look like i'm about to put my money down....haha.... Can lah...when u going for your gown selection?? When's your PS??

I'm supposedly getting my sofa and coffee table this sat.....haiz..praying hard...so stressful...