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One question came to my mind is that how can this contractor do reno works without HDB licence? that is totally illegal. I also agree that it is best dont get into trouble should this contractor be fined later on. Your reno work will be interrupted, so as your marriage plan or whatever.

yup, so is a rare gem if any hb likes to shop with the wife, esp in the ladies dept. So now our solution to this problem is we will go to our men and ladies dept separately, then meet again somewhere later. But I am always the one spending more time than him. haha. In the end, he still has to come back to the ladies to look for me. I think I have this type of possessiveness personality. When I like a certain thing, eg shoe, I always have this urge to buy two in dif colours. But of coz, I no tai tai.

:notti:When he goes shopping with his pay, he didnt buy me anything, but yet I offer my "personal shopper service". But when I shop, I usually shop alone, without him staring at me impatiently, when I browse through the racks.

depends lor.. When I get my pay at the end of month, I love myself more by spending more on my shopping, then maybe buy him one or two pieces. When we quarrel, I love myself more because this is "his fault". When he confides in me or buys me the thing that I have been eyeing or give me small surprises, then I love him more.

Talking about the show, I think Tay's ex, in the show, also has to be responsible because not only she helped him financially (ok, maybe as a friend), she actually rested her head on his shoulder when they were alone. Her body language really gave him "permission" to carry on further and she didnt resist him after that. wa kao.. Before marrying Huang, Tay had to break up with Aimei before he can marry Huang who is pregnant rite? There is another part when Huang begged mil to help her to dissuade Tay about the divorce, I will go chop her after seeing her sarcas face and words if I am Huang. haha I also think at any point when "dumper" is having downs in the marriage, tend to think of the "ex" because the grass is always greener on other side. There is an assumption that if one marries the ex, probably have a "much happier in everything" marriage. As a "dumpee", then the chance of getting back is slim.

Support? nope, i dont expect that, but maybe in form of pocket money in a nominal sum when they visit me after they are married. That is good enough for me. Cant expect too much. When there is expectation, there is even more disappointment.

I also felt sad that Tay PH asked for divorce in the show, but his actions had already showed clearly he has given up this marriage and given in the temptation by his ex, together with the help of his mom going all the way out to destroy the marriage. I cant imagine if I have such mil. If I am Huang BR, I will agree too as it takes two hands to make a marriage work. My Hb also like any typical man, own wife cannot wear too revealing clothes, no bare back or low cut, but only ogle at other women who dress in that manner. Refer to a statement made in the show, men who have many gfs are called "playboys" but women who have many bfs are called "loose" or "cheap". !!

haha, u are funny! ya, no wonder, he still poor as ever. !! Korea, u are a lucky woman! But my "great" Hb once said, the better the men treat the wives, the more the wives expect.

Actually, My HB's profession also has many young girls in his company. He even commented that his female colleagues all like to wear low-cut tops. OMG!So I have also declared my attitude should he stray, out he goes!! As for my solution, I also contantly remind myself that I need to trust him. I feel is not worth if I lose my looks and mental health over him. haha. If I keep questioning his whereabouts and going thro his hp (few of my gfs do that to their Hb, or go through their credit card bills), that will put unnecessary pressure on our relationship and push him nearer to the temptation out there. So I suggest that we should tie our hb's hearts with our love and gentleness. But still need to "discipline" when necessary. haha..

For me, I cant stand physical abuse and adultery. An abusive man is likely to be like that forever, just like a leopard cant change its spots. Last time my ex-gf had a bad experience with her then bf. She didnt want to tell us only when we went out and saw her wounds on her arm and knee. Apparently, she said she had an argument with him. So he dragged her out of the house and pushed her hard. In the end, she fell and hurt herself on the pebble wash outside his house. Like cuts on her knee and elbow. So scarry!! But the irony is that she still married him in the end, because he has promised not to do it again. But I still have my doubts.

One of my closest ex-gf's then bf also proposed to her, because she wanted a breakup due to what reason, I am not sure. He proposed and she accepted. They are still together and have a son. But somehow I feel is it healthy to keep a person's by your side with such tactic? because this may only be able to keep him/her physically and not the heart.

ya, I agree. Like my case, when I give suggestions, eg about work problems to my HB, he doesnt listen and he said he only wanted a listening ear, and not suggestions. aiyo, I sayang him then I give him some advices to hope it can help him feel better or at least, can improve the situation. He said is a man's ego thing, cannot always listen to the wife, if not become hen pecked.

"foreplay"?? nope, is a form of punishment when he comments on something that I dont like to hear, eg why now you put on so much weight, last time so slim. (sounds familiar rite!! a line from the show again) I guess we are all working women, we need to be more aggressive in our working environment where there is so much back stabbing and politiking everywhere, we have to "protect" ourselves. Thus, we have "lost" our "gentleness". eg those gfs around me are mostly have the tough side, including me. But in comparision with ladies from angmo countries, we are considered gentle in the eyes of angmo men. Their women are even more outspoken than us here. But sometimes we also display our gentleness la, esp when I want a birthday or xmas present .. haha ya, I am sure my hb big fat arm can take my blows. Sometimes, he even comments that is like a mosquito pricking him only. Looks like I better go for weight lifting liao.

oops, I also like to clinch my fist and hit on my hb's arm, but play play only. haha.. He says how come he marries a "nan ren po".

hi all, I guess men's thinking that when they work hard and provide a better life for us are being responsible and always neglect other areas, such as showing their affection through their words and actions. Sadly, men and women are different and so link back to the show "Men from Mars, women from venus". hee

Love itself is just a simple affection between two people. But in the end, it is complicated by a factor called human. She has already reached a decision, maybe she just want others to agree with her.

Hello, just to share my thoughts. I feel you should get assurance from B that the feelings between both of you is mutual, not one-sided. Ask him if he is really wants to commit to a relationship with you. Do have a heart-to-heart talk. And this thing called "instinct" doesnt work in real life. It takes time to really ascertain if B and you are really compatible, eg personality and values, only when you spend a sufficient length of time together, not as couple, maybe as friends to start with. Lastly, I feel that you should also tell A about what is going on now. I feel it is utmost unfair to deceive him, even though is only your thoughts, and maybe he has already started to feel something not right. All the best. Happiness awaits you only if you are answerable to your actions.